The website uses cookies to optimize your user experience. Using this website grants us the permission to collect certain information essential to the provision of our services to you, but you may change the cookie settings within your browser any time you wish. Learn more
I agree
Summary | 8 Annotations
If you want to be happier and more successful in life, it's important to fight the brain's natural tendency to focus on the negative
2017/10/16 09:46
Highlighting the work of social psychologist Roy Baumeister, Seppälä points out that our brain's "tendency to give more weight to the negative may have helped our species survive by highlighting potential dangers.
2017/10/16 09:47
However, in this day and age, our negativity bias, both as it relates to the environment and to our self-judgments, is harmful," she writes
2017/10/16 09:47
replacing your belief in strengths with belief in your efforts and replacing self-criticism with self-compassion.
2017/10/16 09:47
"self-compassion" can sound "soft" or "idealistic." However, she explains, "it allows you to be successful without sabotaging yourself."
2017/10/16 09:48
When they each faced adversity and difficult situations, they did not allow themselves to feel defeated. Instead, they persisted and believed their efforts would pay off — a mindset encapsulated in this quote Seppälä credits to Einstein: "Failure is success in progress."
2017/10/16 09:48
Meanwhile, Alibaba founder and CEO Jack Ma was born to a poor family in China and later failed his university entrance exams twice before getting accepted to Hangzhou Teachers' Institute. Upon graduation, Ma applied for dozens of jobs and faced rejection after rejection.
2017/10/16 09:49
Research shows that three times more positive than negative things happen to us, yet we focus on the negative," Seppälä says. "By realizing the good things, we will obviously be not just happier, but more realistic. We won't let our life go by wasted on complaints, we'll actually enjoy and make the best of what we have."
2017/10/16 09:50